As most of you are enjoying the Fourth of July and Independence and all the great things that happened this month I want you to remember that this is our mid-year IGNITE. So some of you have been around, and some of you who have not learned about my IGNITE formula it’s time for you guys to turn on and turn into what it is.
So the first thing I’m going to speak about is your communication with your child on the autism spectrum. I know I have so many people reaching out to me asking, “How do I get my son to communicate more?” or “How do I get my daughter to engage more with others?” or “How do I engage with my child when I’m feeling so disconnected from them at times?”. So this month, I’m going to help you get IGNITED. Get yourself back towards, moving towards connecting with them and helping you towards forging that better communication.
This week is WEEK 1: EASE
Tip 1: Making sure your communication you’ have with your child is happening naturally. I know some of you so so super anxious about getting your child tot hat next level that sometimes you begin to lose the naturalness about the way you want it to be received. I always say, when you’re in your most natural environment, when you’re the most comfortable, guess what? you want to communicate more. because you’re feeling comfortable. The first important tool I want you to remember is to stay natural.
Tip 2: Ease into making steps towards communication. What do I mean by EASE? I mean don’t be in front of their faces and overwhelming. Becuase you have such a passion for it to come so quickly you want to be right here. Yes, be excited. Yes, bring fun and energetic. But ease into how you want to imitate after you. How you want them to model, and then imitate what you are doing.
This can start first with actions. This week, let’s just start with getting them to imitate with actions. So the first thing we’re going to do is be natural. The second thing is ease into that communication mode that we want to get them towards.
Tip 3: The third thing I want you to do is keeping stepping into your “next”. Keep making your moves into your next, so if you want them to imitate certain actions think what’s going to be your first action, and then after that’s completed, what’is going to be your next action? So for example, you want your child to grab that dirty cup from across the room into the sink? How do you get that done? Do it naturally, Let them know that this is just where it goes, show them and give them a demonstration. Do it with ease.
Now, remember you may have to break this down into steps. This may be something as simple, imitate/model cup, do all the great things, bring it to your face so they know, and show them where the sink is. After it is in the sink, what comes next? How about we help them start helping us wash the dishes? It can be as simple as getting some soap on the sponge. Or turning over the water to let the water run over it. We can start simple, and over time build on this. In the end, we are moving towards independence so they are doing it by THEMSELVES.
Quick simple rules. Quick simple tips on how you are going to move towards independence and how you are using communication to be FUN.