Mindset: 3 Bite Size Shifts to Create Ultimate Results

Today I am super duper excited to welcome you and speak to you about bite size shifts. The bite size shifts that get me towards rapid results, towards those big results. I’m excited to share with you three of the tools that I use that just helps us to move us towards getting those results that we want. Like right now I am doing a mid-year check in at the time of this recording, and I’m looking at where I started to where I am going. Most often I can get really overwhelmed at the bigness of what it is that I want. Like I constantly go after really, really big dreams and this isn’t something new. I mean, I remember myself as a child playing inside the yard and always thinking to myself, “oh my goodness, I see myself as a doctor. I see myself in front of many, talking to them and having them listen to me.” Like I literally visualized myself doing this as a child.

 

Now I thought at that time that talking really was going to be in front of a classroom. So when I became an educator, I’m like, “okay, but this was pretty much what I visualized.” Not realizing that I actually visualized that I will be speaking in front of a larger crowd. So if I could think of myself as a child and having that dream, having that vision, and it being so big, I’m not even sure if I even knew how right? Because I was a kid. I was what, seven, eight when I was playing with my dolls? And now I look back at that and I think to myself that I always had these big dreams in my life. When I start something, I automatically go for, well, what else can I do? And where is the maximum place I can be at this? And then I start activating a plan.

 

So for many of us, we may look at this as, “oh, it can be overwhelming,” especially when the bigger our dreams, the bigger our desires, the scarier it gets. And most of the time we think that it is not going to happen. We start doing the negative self chatter and we’d just talk ourselves out of that. But today I’m going to share with you some tools on how you can use bite size movements, bite size tips towards where you can get that final result that you need. Because if we keep thinking in terms of only obtaining the things that we want happening as really big steps happening with really big moves – and don’t get me wrong, I’m the power moves lady, so I really love speaking to you about how to do power moves – but in order to make the power moves, we have to be okay with the bite sized shifts. Let’s see if I can say that three times.

 

Bite Size Shift #1: Break down what you want to accomplish for the day each morning.

Back to the first thing I always like to say, and this is my tool that I have to use every single day, is I first put it into my morning – and I have many other recordings with this where I look at what do I need to get done for the day? Now the morning times are a great time for me to strategize. For some, they may use the night before, but the morning is really good because it allows me to actually feel like I’m always starting at the start line, and then the end of the day tends to be my finish line. So I actually chunk it into daily steps as opposed to you know, this big dream and only seeing that really big gigantic thing, but looking at it more as a 5k to get me towards finishing the marathon. So every morning I literally I wake up and that is my daily ritual that I use to help me to turn that big dream into bite size chunks, and the bite size chunks as first looking at it as in terms of each day what can I do to get me closer towards the results I want? Oooh right? So let me know if that was something that resonated with you.

 

I mean I was speaking to one of my coaching clients this weekend. She was letting me know that when she thought of where it is that she wants to go in terms of writing a book, in terms of speaking more, and then creating more income for her children. She’s another autism mom like myself and she got overwhelmed. She got scared and she was like, “oh my goodness, this is so big. I almost feel like it can’t happen.” And we were able to strategize, “well, wait a minute – let’s just take all of that and put it into nice bite size chunks so that we can start actually seeing how we can make this happen after our session.” And we were able to just put it into nice size chunks that were palatable, that were able to be chewed.

 

If we want to eat our whole meal, we’re not going to shove the whole thing in our mouth. We’re going to take us a spoon, and then we’re going to put that in. And we’re going to take another fork and we’re going to put that in. And we’re going to take another mouthful and we’re going to put that in, so that eventually it leads into completing the plate, which is your ultimate results in the end. So we just took our spoonfuls and we just separated the plate into separate quantities, and with that it just became palatable. So when you’re looking at those really ultimate big results that we want in our lives, and it can be in so many things – whether it’s losing weight, whether it’s making sure that we are parenting our child and teaching them the things that they need to know – huge, huge results, right? Or in terms of our business, if we want to make 6k that year, or sometimes just make six figures that year, or sometimes just make five figures, how do we take it and put it into bite size chips?

 

Bite Size Shift #2: Create a plan for the week.

The first one, as I mentioned, was starting our morning and thinking, what do we need to get accomplished for the day? The second one I use is I have to have a plan. If there’s no plan, then we’re not moving towards anything. So as we move it into the daily, at the end of the week, what do we need to get accomplished? We’re moving from day into now week, and with the week now so we can now reverse engineer and know that if I want this completed by the end of the week and what do I need to get done each day?

 

So the day is the first thing, then we take that expansion that we look at the entire week. If I do this every single day, would I be able to get what I need to get done for the week? So it’s almost like a self check into where you’re trying to go. Now the reason why we broke it up into smaller chunks in terms of the day first is because this works for me. I mean it’s just a strategy that works for me, someone might want to do the week first and then go back into the day. For me, I like doing it each morning and say, “okay, this is what I’m doing this morning. If I get this done each day during the morning, throughout the week, it will get done.” So plan a little bigger. We’re going to go small bite size chunks, and then get it a little bigger so we can make sure that we are tracking ourselves towards being on task.

 

Bite Size Shift #3: Take one step at a time.

So the last thing I want to let you know, if you want to move towards those rapid results and you want to know how to do the bite size daily shifts, take one step at a time. Like just understand that one step at a time – and it doesn’t have to be fast steps – just make sure you are stepping. The same analogies being used, if I’m trying to get towards my finish line, I gotta look at where I’m starting and I have to step. So I’m always going to leave you with an action step. It’s always going to be an action technique where you are physically moving. Your planning is the mindset part. You’re reviewing is more constant mindset part and some some mental movements. And then the action is the actual doing it like what did you physically need to do to get it done? We gotta move out of that mind only and now move it into our body and into it physically happening. And if you do that, if you follow these three simple tips and steps into shifting into your maximum results, into getting to things that you desire, I promise you by the end of a certain time that you give yourself, you will see growth. And for me that’s the way guys.

 

Thank you for following the Dr. Ali Griffith Show. If you feel that you need some assistance or some help with some of these tools and techniques that I’ve given, if you are looking for those rapid results and you feel like you’ve just been going in a circle, or simply don’t even know what your first step is, make sure you reach out to me at bit.ly/chatcreate so that we can have a 15 minute complimentary call. Thank you so much, and until next time remember be au-mazing in your thoughts, your words, and in your actions. Peace.

 

 

This is a transcription of The Dr. Ali Griffith Show. If you’d like to listen to this episode and others you can do so here: bit.ly/dralishow

 

P.S. My nonprofit Smart Fit Fam is hosting our 5th annual Smart Fit Family Fitness Fun Day on July 28th and I’d love for you to attend! This is a free event for ALL to attend (especially special needs families!). We’ll have lots of fun activities, including limbo, potato sack races, egg and spoon races, face painting, dancing, and so many more wellness/fitness activities, games, and food. The event will be at the Wyckoff Farmhouse Museum in Brooklyn, NY from 11am-4pm. It’s totally free to attend! Check it out and get your tickets here: bit.ly/fifthfitfun

Mindset: Five Biggest Mistakes to Avoid that Affect Results

What’s up, what’s up, what is up? And welcome to the Dr. Ali Griffith Show: Mindset, Meditation, and Motivation. What are some of the biggest mistakes that I see people make that affect their results? I know you’re ready to hear it, so stay tuned and I’ll go through all of the details of what are some of the mistakes that I constantly see that affects results.

 

So today we are speaking about results and the things that we do that we want to see, the results that we want to see, right? You get up in the morning and everyone has certain intentions and from the intentions you want to get results. Now, a lot of my clients come to me because they’re always questioning, “Dr. Ali, how is it that you are getting these fast results where you just literally started a business a few years ago and now we’re seeing you everywhere. We’re seeing, you know, constant movement and constant results,” in terms of what I’m doing, whether it’s parenting, whether it’s business or if it’s just me in general. I’ve always been a person that reaps fast results. Now what I gave you, and I can show you that in a different video or podcast, is what I have done to create the results, but I’ve never shared with you what I see that are mistakes that are people making to create the results that they want. So today we’re going to share all about some of those mistakes that I see.

 

Mistake #1: Doubting yourself.

The first mistake I see is first people doubt themselves. You’re constantly doubt yourself. I know for me, at the beginning when I start any new project, the first thing that comes into my mind is often “you can’t do this” or “what will happen if you fail?” or “that just sounds silly”. Like I literally talked myself out of every idea that I have before even moving, and I spent some time there. Now before in time when I was younger, when I didn’t know better, I would actually spend a very, very long real estate in there. And when I say a long real estate, meaning I have let ideas that I’ve had sit on me for one year, five year, 10 years, 20 years, even to the point where I just talked myself out of it. To where it was a great idea when it first came up, and then the self doubt came in and all the negative things came in and I completely said, “okay, well I’m not doing it because I already saw the end and the end is not exactly what I want.”

 

So that began to be one of the mistakes that I was doing, and what I realized when I speak to my clients and I’m helping them through their blocks, or through their not making action, is they are constantly doubting themselves. Possibly from other failures that have happened, possibly from what they’ve heard, possibly from just their own negativity that lets them question whether they can get it done, or just simply fear. So when we continue to doubt ourselves, when we continue to talk ourselves out of things, then that affects the results. Like how do they expect to get fast results if we’re going to talk ourselves out of it?

 

Mistake #2: Worrying too much about what others might think.

The second thing, biggest mixing mistake I see people make is they’re constantly willing to listen to others. Like they’re listening to what others say, and guess what? We’re also listening to what they don’t say. So we’re waiting to hear, “oh, that was great,” or “that was not great.” We’ll put something out there and then we’ll do the – we’ll bring our ears towards because we want to know what is it that they feel. We’re listening. We’re listening to if they say negative, and then when they say negative, we’re going to jump on that, “well you know, I did think it wasn’t a good idea,” or, “you know, maybe I did make many mistakes.” And or, we’re listening to the positive. Like we’re waiting. We’re just waiting and listening and allowing whatever they’re saying to be the primary reason if we’re continue or not continue.

 

Mistake #3: Expecting fast results.

The third thing, I see this too a lot, is we expect fast results immediately. Like we want Burger King right away. We want to put it out there and we want a million hits. We want to start something and reach the the final point immediately. And I had to learn that life doesn’t happen like that. Like nothing I’ve earned happens over night. When I went to do my martial arts studies, I started at white belt and I had to train and I had to go through to the next level. You know, for us it was the yellow belt, and then moving through to the next level. So there are always steps and levels and things that you have to get through – the falls, the rises, the different moments where it’s just part of the process. When I had Steve Harvey as our coach during our Act Like a Success, he said, “many people want to jump in and just take the elevator straight to the Penthouse, not realizing that you’ve got to walk the steps to get up there and that the penthouse isn’t exactly floor level two, or three, or even five or six. It’s often a huge number.” So if you want to get to the penthouse, or you want to get to your final destination and if you want results that happen faster than others, you have to expect that it’s not going to happen immediately.

 

And that is one of the biggest mistakes I see too often and I am guilty of that myself. You know, we’d comment from this fast paced society where everything is technologically advanced, then we want to be technically technologically advanced. Then we want to go ahead and do something and it’ll download immediately or uploaded immediately, and in reality that is just not true. And if we keep expecting – if I keep expecting it – you keep expecting for things to happen immediately, then guess what? We are going to constantly be disappointed because immediate is not the not the road too fast results. Immediate is not the road to success. What is the road is taking our time and that leads to the next biggest mistake.

 

Mistake #4: Failing to plan.

Another big mistake we make is we don’t plan. If you fail to plan then you’re literally planning to fail. So we have to understand where it is we want to go. Like if we’re getting into a car and we know our final destination, then we’re looking at what are some of the steps that we have to pass through or the places we have to go to get to our final destination? We don’t just jump into the car and guess what, blink we’ve arrived. That doesn’t happen. So why do you think it’s going to happen in terms of your parenting success? Why do you think it’s going to happen in terms of your business success? I had such a rude awakening when I realized that everything that I put my hands to required a plan. It required strategic action. It required not just wishing and thinking and lots of wing it. You know, like when you think you’ll just go to the store and give them a dollar and all of a sudden you’ll become a millionaire.

 

Uhh, reality?? That doesn’t happen to all of us. That’s like a tiny, minuscule drop of a person that that will happen too. And even for those people, those are people who may have been playing it for years now. Understanding that we need to make a plan, we need to make a plan, we need to create a plan, will allow us to start seeing whether we are moving in the direction that we want to go. It allows us checks and balances. It allowed me a place where when things didn’t go the way I wanted it to go, then I had something, a roadmap to go back and look at it and see, okay, where could I have done something different? What can I do? How do I recalculate where it is that I want to go? And having a solid plan, a strategic plan helps in that process.

 

Now if you don’t want to get the fast results, then don’t plan. Just get up there and just blink it away. But if you’re looking for those fast results like I am, like you are, like most families or moms with children with autism or special needs, or just moms in general who just don’t have the time – you want to make sure that you don’t make these mistakes that I have made repeatedly. Created a plan.

 

Mistake #5: Not getting help.

The last thing I’m going to share for you is not getting help. Like that’s a huge, huge mistake. I think that that should be like the biggest one of  it all. Here we are with this “I can do it myself” attitude that I don’t need help to parent. I don’t need help to start my own business and have a successful business. Guess what? I need help. I had to learn that everything that I do, create that plan and know where is it that I’m going to need help.

 

When I see myself fall, when I see myself not show up the way I know I’m supposed to show up, then I get help. I have my coaches, I have my mentors, I have different people that I will reach to when I am at the lowest. I even when I’m the highest, even when I’m at the highest, I’m constantly asking for help. Because what I realized is when we ask for help, when we reach out to others and let them know, “hey, you too can be part of this process,” then we get better results. Then we get the things that we want to see happen. We see it happen even faster because guess what? If you think about it, it’s collective energy. And if I’m doing it by myself, then I’m just the only sole force of energy. If I have others that are giving me help and helping me along the way, then I have now found a way that I can have collective energy with others who believe or want the same thing, helping me towards that process.

 

So this is Dr. Ali Griffith’s Mindset, Meditation and Motivation show. I appreciate you subscribing. I appreciate you leaving your rates and reviews and helping us to become a success. Now don’t stay here, drop back and listen to another one of my Dr. Ali Griffith Shows. There’s so many and they can keep you moving. And if you’re at that state where you just actually need to take a pause and to breathe, then you need to take or listen to the au-meditation moments. Thank you, and I’ll catch you next time. And remember in all that you do, be au-amazing in your thoughts, your words, and in your actions.

 

 

This is a transcription of The Dr. Ali Griffith Show. If you’d like to listen to this episode and others you can do so here: bit.ly/dralishow

 

P.S. My nonprofit Smart Fit Fam is hosting our 5th annual Smart Fit Family Fitness Fun Day on July 28th and I’d love for you to attend! This is a free event for ALL to attend (especially special needs families!). We’ll have lots of fun activities, including limbo, potato sack races, egg and spoon races, face painting, dancing, and so many more wellness/fitness activities, games, and food. The event will be at the Wyckoff Farmhouse Museum in Brooklyn, NY from 11am-4pm. It’s totally free to attend! Check it out and get your tickets here: bit.ly/fifthfitfun

Motivation: How to Get it Done in a Day

What’s up, what’s up, what is up? And welcome to the Dr. Ali Griffith Show: Mindset, Meditation and Motivation. I want to say thank you to those of you who have subscribed, who have been leaving your reviews and your ratings, and you are the reason that we are over 1.7 thousand downloads within less than two months. Let’s celebrate that, let’s celebrate that! Now, if you ever wanted to find out how to maximize your time and get the most out of those short breaks in your day so that you can keep moving to where the ultimate results, this is going to be that session for you. So grab your pens, get your thoughts together, create a little notes section in your apps, whatever is going to help you to remember some of these tips, and do that right now.

 

I’m super excited to share some of my tools and tips with you because I never even realized that they were tools and tips. They were just things that I did along the way and some I’ve done and I’d made huge, huge errors like, well, I’m going to give you some exact tips that I didn’t even think that they could actually result in something good because they were actually downfalls later on. Now looking back, like I was telling her class, I was training yesterday, my hindsight is my clearest site, so when I can look back and see, oh my goodness, that was actually a tool that was actually a strategy that I can use now to watch something else. It helps me to now know that it’s okay for me to go through the mess ups and the blunders and the falls, because when I look back at it and I look at the lesson learned through it, I now can use this for other things that are going to come up in my life.

 

Tip 1: Create a plan.

So the first tip that I use whenever I have those short moments in my day is I create a plan before the day even starts. I create a plan because it helps me to know that throughout the day I have to squeeze time in to get what I need done. And the reason why I say this is because most of you know I’m an audiologist and speech language pathologist by trade. I’m an autism mom. I run my own nonprofit organization, Smart Fit Fam. I also am a business owner for So Smart Kids, and my training and development program, which is the Dr. Alisha Griffith LLC. So trying to do all of those sometimes can feel overwhelming. And when I don’t have a plan of what I need to get accomplished for that day, I ended up just not getting anything done.

 

I get other stuff done, but the top things, the priorities, the things that will make me feel like a success towards the end of the day, if they’re not planned, they’re not done at all. So I know many people tell you this over and over again and you’re like, oh my gosh, I hate planning. And sometimes I just like to live spontaneously. Living spontaneously is totally cool. I am down for that all the way. However, if you want to see results, if you want to move towards a specific goal, a specific objective, a specific result that you know you are going to be happy about, you’ve got to throw in some sort of plan. And the way I plan is I just list the top three things that I need to get done for that day that would make me feel successful. So you can try this tip and then let me know how does it feel once you just reduced the 10, reduced the 15? I know we all have our to do lists, but just focus on three, and if you focus on those three, how will you feel when it is completed?

 

Tip 2: Pair it with something you MUST do.

The second thing that I do, and once again I stumbled into this, was I pair it with something else that I know I must do. So I think a cool example of that is I know every morning I must put Zachary onto the bus (that’s my son). He is my son with autism and we are now in the process of helping him to learn how to become more independent and go towards the bus stop and wait for the bus. However, I’ve got to get up in the morning and I’ve got to help or assist him. We’re preparing himself for the day, and preparing myself for the day. So I pair going to the gym with that because one of my top three things on my goal, yeah, my personal goal is to make sure that I get at least 20 to 30 minutes of movement and activity each day. If I can pair it with that, then great. On the days I can’t pair it with it – like if I have a meeting – I don’t take it out on myself, but I don’t get super duper angry with myself. All I do is make sure I look at it, I really evaluate it. Can I move it to another time of the day? Is there something else that I must do through this state that I can pair it with? So pairing it with something that you must do, pairing it with something that is part of your regular routine makes it more possible that you can get in those times, or squeeze in those when you can focus on your three planned goals for the day.

 

Tip 3: Implement a checks and balances system.

The last thing I want to say that I definitely definitely have to do is I have a checks and balance system. You know, I figured if it’s good for the zoo, if it’s good for the judicial system, if it’s good for our legislative system… then it’s got to be good for me. Right? So how I use my checks and balance system is I use two or three, two or three other things to help me to remember because sometimes my memory is really, really horrible. I don’t know if  any of you guys are like me. I would plan in the morning and life would happen and things will just go array. And you know, you get caught up with the office, or you get caught up with a friend, you get caught up with unexpected things that pop into your day. And I’d create that checks and balance system of what my checks and balanced system looks like. It can be an alarm, it can be an accountability group, it can be telling a friends or a close family member.

 

Now what that does for me is that helps another person to check in on me. It gives that tool of the alarm to remind me and it gives my accountability teams, a group of who I have to report to either at the end of the day, at the end of the week. In my Ignite U Mastermind, which is my business coaching program, we have an accountability group where we meet up every two weeks. That helps to create a checks and balance system for the moments when life just happens, right? So if you start creating a checks and balance system, then you will have something else to remind you and it will take some of the pressure off of yourself.

 

So those are a few of my tips. Those are a few of the things that I go to that I try. I have done them repeatedly, and I now know this works for me. So I decided to just let you in and share it because I have so many people asking me, “Dr. Ali, I don’t get it. How do you do it? How do you do so much and still create those maximum results?” And I just stopped and I took a look back and I saw what are some of the things that I do that I know leads into me looking on the other side saying, wow, I can’t believe I got that done. I’ve got to have that structured plan. I have to pair it with something that I know it’s part of my regular routine. And I definitely have to create some sort of checks and balances system to make sure that there’s a reminder, to make sure someone is calling me or or sending me a text, or knowing that I have to report to either a coach or report to accountability group also helps to make sure I stay on the straight and narrow.

 

I want to thank you for just popping in and spending some time with me and using this time to shift your mindset to learn more about motivating yourself and to then go into action. Share with me how are some of the tools and tips that I’ve been sharing with you over time? How has it impacted your life? What changes have you seen? I’ve been so blessed that this week on a coaching call, I spoke to a mom and she mentioned that listening to my shows or watching the Youtube videos have been her coffee in the morning. Oh my goodness. Coffee in the morning. That’s super huge. That means I helped keep her – well, I asked her what does that mean of course. And she said, “you help to keep me going. You help me to know that I have hope. You helped me to keep moving forward.” To me, that’s priceless. So keep sharing your wins. Keep letting me know what else can I focus on and how was can I serve you? Because I want to make sure if you’re going to allot a few minutes just to allocate it, just to listen to me or watch me, then I want to make sure you’re getting the most out of your time.

 

I know, I sure am getting a lot out of it because there’s nothing like working through problems, working through challenges, and working through wins with other people and sharing how I do it. It helps to reinforce me, and it helps to reignite me, and it helps to recalibrate me for what is in my future. I want to thank you for watching and listening and being part of the Dr. Ali Griffith Show: Mindset, Meditation and Motivation. And I want always, always to remind you to remember to be, are au-mazing in your thoughts, your words, and in your actions.

 

Remember to subscribe, review, share this with your friends, and definitely let me know what are your thoughts? What do you think about what we said today? Which tip works for you? Which tip have you tried before and that you’re not too sure about? Or which one just said, oh my goodness, this is exactly what I needed to hear for the day that I have ahead, or the day I have planning moving forward? Thanks for listening and have a good day. Peace.

 

This is a transcription of The Dr. Ali Griffith Show. If you’d like to listen to this episode and others you can do so here: bit.ly/dralishow

 

P.S. My nonprofit Smart Fit Fam is hosting our 5th annual Smart Fit Family Fitness Fun Day on July 28th and I’d love for you to attend! This is a free event for ALL to attend (especially special needs families!). We’ll have lots of fun activities, including limbo, potato sack races, egg and spoon races, face painting, dancing, and so many more wellness/fitness activities, games, and food. The event will be at the Wyckoff Farmhouse Museum in Brooklyn, NY from 11am-4pm. It’s totally free to attend! Check it out and get your tickets here: bit.ly/fifthfitfun