Hi, it’s your girl Dr. Alisha Griffith, officially known to many as “Dr. Ali.” I am your autism parenting strategist and ignite coach. I help autism moms, mompreneurs, and aspiring mompreneurs, to shift past places of feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and stress out, and move towards where you are making bold, brave power moves so you can ignite the results you want and live that ultimate dream or that ultimate life you desire.
Today I will speak a little bit more about how to identify what makes your child unique. So let’s start by taking out a paper and pen. There’s an activity page in my book Au-mazing Gift: A Journey to Autism Acceptance, this is my success tool #2 where we identify unique strengths. Now lets write down five characteristics about our child that make them uniquely themselves.
For my son Zachary, he’s always lighting up the room, always positive. He tends to shift others when they’re feeling down. He also has a canny way of being funny, and connects well with those that he has an interest in. Those are some of his unique characteristics.
Take some time and write down what are five unique characteristics that your child may have, what makes them unique? If you’re still not sure about this ask a friend, ask a family member. They may be able to identify some things that you don’t write see.
Now as you’re finding those unique characteristics about your child, let’s take some time out to find out the unique characteristics about you. Yes you, we’re still talking about YOU mom, and how can you identify your unique characteristics. So the same thing – write down five things that make YOU unique, and also have your other friends, or other people you may know, tell you what makes you unique.
So it’s your girl Dr. Ali Griffith, make sure you stay tuned because I have an au-mazing free tool that I’m offering right now where we’re sharing 14 other strategies(I call them my secret success tips) on how you can create radical results! So make sure you sign up for that, and sign up for the opportunity of being in any one of my monthly Masterclasses, or in my specialIgnite Au-mazing Nation(my membership group).
Don’t do this alone y’all, make sure you gather a team!
As most of you are enjoying the Fourth of July and Independence and all the great things that happened this month I want you to remember that this is our mid-year IGNITE. So some of you have been around, and some of you who have not learned about my IGNITE formula it’s time for you guys to turn on and turn into what it is.
So the first thing I’m going to speak about is your communication with your child on the autism spectrum. I know I have so many people reaching out to me asking, “How do I get my son to communicate more?” or “How do I get my daughter to engage more with others?” or “How do I engage with my child when I’m feeling so disconnected from them at times?”. So this month, I’m going to help you get IGNITED. Get yourself back towards, moving towards connecting with them and helping you towards forging that better communication.
This week is WEEK 1: EASE
Tip 1: Making sure your communication you’ have with your child is happening naturally. I know some of you so so super anxious about getting your child tot hat next level that sometimes you begin to lose the naturalness about the way you want it to be received. I always say, when you’re in your most natural environment, when you’re the most comfortable, guess what? you want to communicate more. because you’re feeling comfortable. The first important tool I want you to remember is to stay natural.
Tip 2: Ease into making steps towards communication. What do I mean by EASE? I mean don’t be in front of their faces and overwhelming. Becuase you have such a passion for it to come so quickly you want to be right here. Yes, be excited. Yes, bring fun and energetic. But ease into how you want to imitate after you. How you want them to model, and then imitate what you are doing.
This can start first with actions. This week, let’s just start with getting them to imitate with actions. So the first thing we’re going to do is be natural. The second thing is ease into that communication mode that we want to get them towards.
Tip 3: The third thing I want you to do is keeping stepping into your “next”. Keep making your moves into your next, so if you want them to imitate certain actions think what’s going to be your first action, and then after that’s completed, what’is going to be your next action? So for example, you want your child to grab that dirty cup from across the room into the sink? How do you get that done? Do it naturally, Let them know that this is just where it goes, show them and give them a demonstration. Do it with ease.
Now, remember you may have to break this down into steps. This may be something as simple, imitate/model cup, do all the great things, bring it to your face so they know, and show them where the sink is. After it is in the sink, what comes next? How about we help them start helping us wash the dishes? It can be as simple as getting some soap on the sponge. Or turning over the water to let the water run over it. We can start simple, and over time build on this. In the end, we are moving towards independence so they are doing it by THEMSELVES.
Quick simple rules. Quick simple tips on how you are going to move towards independence and how you are using communication to be FUN.